Merry Me Blog

I have been working on my own Personal Development since 2008 and I have been going to counselling and therapy since 2016. Of all the themes I have looked at, studied, researched and worked on myself, emotional development has been the most important and the theme that has brought about Read More

Stress is acutely uncomfortable. Its purpose is to be uncomfortable so as to motivate you to take action of some kind. We can compare stress to a house alarm system – loud and jarring, it is designed to grab your attention. If your house alarm goes off, you wouldn’t just Read More

Today is World Mental Health Day and with all that has happened over the past two years, we can now see that our Mental health has just as much influence on our quality of life as our physical health does and that it is just as important to put as Read More

As children we are born with naturally high levels of confidence that unfortunately, can get chipped away over time by adverse life experiences. Think of a child when they begin learning to walk and talk, most children do so with lots of confidence and self-belief. At no point do they Read More

Exams are here and most students are going to feel a certain level of anxiety and stress around this time, some more than others. Stress at this time for students tends to be unavoidable but the good news is there are many great ways of managing it! Anxiety and stress Read More

This week I am starting a new chapter in my business with a new social media project – my aim is to show people how wonderfully valuable coaching can be. The coaching process centres around values so a large part of this project will be supporting people in supporting their Read More

We are a year in now and we are beginning to see covid-19 is having a huge impact on everyone’s mental health including children and adolescents. I was very kindly asked to participate once again on 96fm’s Opinion Line to share some of my best tips on helping you and Read More

I was very kindly asked by Cork’s 96fm to participate in The Opinion Line with PJ Coogan and Chat about friendship during lockdown… Here are some of the main points I spoke about:   There are different types of friendships, some are very close and some might be more aquaintances. Read More

Recalibrating Reality is a coaching model or technique that I have created in order to help alleviate anxiety, build self-awareness and live more in the peace and safety of the present moment. There are 3 pillars within the Recalibrating Reality Model.   Reality Awareness – Our reality can be separated Read More

ANXIETY – Do you suffer with it? Do you: Often feel tense, nervous or restless? Find it difficult to shift your focus from worries you may have? Experience a sense of impending danger or panic? Experience irrational thoughts, fears and worries? Find social situations awkward? Worry about what others think Read More

Looking back to move forward is something I do on a continuous basis, but always on a bigger scale at this time when this yearly cycle is about to end and another will begin. I believe that there is a purpose to our existence as human beings – to develop, Read More

  Are you on the prowl for some delightful distraction from your bulging belly or heaving hangover on this Merry day?  Well you came to the right place! Today’s final instalment is all about the entertainment factor, read on to see what’s in store! I like to think of it Read More

As the Merry Season is upon us, I have written this Christmas Survival Guide with my tips and tricks to enjoy this Christmas as much as possible! I usually love everything about Christmas but I have no doubt I am not alone when I say that the usual Christmas cheer Read More

Vulnerability, for me, was always a frightening prospect, until I started delving a bit deeper into it as a topic… I have learned from Brené Brown, vulnerability isn’t that scary! Long before I started reading her book “Daring greatly” I had decided I wanted to embrace vulnerability more in my Read More

The best treatment or cure for a phobia is to slowly and gently come into contact with the thing that you are afraid of. Fear has wreaked havoc in this world and in our lives. We are afraid of so many things. We are afraid to face ourselves, we are Read More

It has taken me YEARS of attempts and about 20 books on “The best way to meditate” later but I finally feel confident enough to sit down in my meditation chair (I need a chair…and a nice comfy one too at that!) for roughly 20 mins and soak in the Read More

Definition: Success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. What does success mean to you? Where did your idea of what success is come from? What successes have you achieved in your life, we naturally bring to mind the big successes but also make a conscious effort to think Read More

Personal development covers activities that build self-awareness and confidence, develop talents and potential, discover interests and values that inform your life and career, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realisation of dreams and aspirations.   Think about how you better yourself? What works for you, what doesn’t? Read More

The comfort zone is a psychological state in which a person feels familiar, at ease, in control and experiences low anxiety and stress. In the zone a steady level of performance is possible. Task: To begin to step outside your comfort zone you must know where the boundaries of that comfort Read More

“If a man does not know what port he is steering for, no wind is favourable to him” Task: Have a think about these questions throughout the week – Have you got a vision for your life? Did you always have one? How has it worked out for you? We Read More